FRIEDSHIP मित्रता
CONCEPTS & EXTRACTS IN HINDUISM
By :: Pt. Santosh Bhardwaj
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अक्षरं परमं ब्रह्म ज्योतीरूपं सनातनम्।
गुणातीतं निराकारं स्वेच्छामयमनन्तजम्॥
कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन।
मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भुर्मा ते संगोऽस्त्वकर्मणि।
[श्रीमद्भगवद्गीता 2.47]
मित्र :: जो त्याग (अलोभ एवं दूसरों के लिये सब कुछ उत्सर्ग करने का स्वभाव), विज्ञान (सम्पूर्ण शास्त्रों में प्रवीणता) तथा सत्व (विकार शून्यता), इन गुणों से सम्पन्न, महापक्ष (महान् आश्रय एवं बहुसंख्यक बन्धु आदि के वर्ग से सम्पन्न), प्रियंवद (मधुर एवं हितकर वचन बोलने वाला), आयतिक्षम (सुस्थिर स्वभाव होने के कारण भविष्यकाल में भी साथ देने वाला) अद्वैध (दुनिया में रहने वाला) तथा उत्तम कुल में उत्पन्न हो, ऐसे पुरुष को अपना मित्र बनाये।
मित्र संग्रह के तीन प्रकार :- मित्र के आने पर दूर से ही अगवानी में जाना, स्पष्ट एवं प्रिय वचन बोलना तथा सत्कारपूर्वक मनोवाञ्छित वस्तु देना, ये मित्र संग्रह के तीन प्रकार हैं।
मित्र संग्रह के तीन फल :- धर्म, अर्थ, काम की प्राप्ति, ये मित्र से मिलने वाले तीन प्रकार के फल हैं।
चार प्रकार के मित्र :- औरस (माता-पिता के सम्बन्ध से युक्त), मित्रता के सम्बन्ध से बँधा हुआ, कुल क्रमागत तथा संकट से बचाया हुआ।
मित्र के चार गुण :- सत्यता (झूंठ न बोलना), अनुराग और दुःख-सुख में समान रूप से भाग लेना ये मित्र के चार गुण हैं।
वरं न राज्यं न कुराज्यराज्यं, वरं न मित्रं न कुमित्रमित्रम्।
वरं न शिष्यो न कुशिष्यशिष्यो, वरं न दारा न कुदारदारा:॥
ऐसे राज्य (देश, गाँव) में नहीं रहना चाहिये जहाँ अव्यवस्था हो, एक पापी का मित्र होने से बेहतर है कि बिना मित्र का हो। एक मूर्ख का गुरु होने से बेहतर है कि शिष्य हों ही नहीं, एक बुरी पत्नी होने से बेहतर है कि पत्नी हो ही नहीं।[चाणक्य नीति 6.13]Its better to desert a place where there is no law & order; better to be without a friend than to befriend a rascal; better to be without a disciple than to have a stupid one and better to be without a wife than to have a bad one.
Its better to live in a state which do not have a wicked, vicious, corrupt, vitiated villain king. One is better of alone in stead of wicked, vicious, corrupt, vitiated, cunning, villain, depraved, evil minded friends. Its good not to have wicked, vicious, corrupt, vitiated, cunning, villain, depraved, evil minded students for the teacher and its preferably good idea to remain a bachelor instead of marrying a wicked, vicious, corrupt, vitiated, cunning, villain, depraved, evil minded woman.
There are the people posted under corrupt officers, who force them to do undesirable things. One should better get himself transferred instead of dancing to the tunes of the corrupt bureaucrats or ministers. One day or the other down fall of the corrupt is imminent, how so ever high-mighty he be, such people.
A cunning-wicked friend will always exploit and harm one. An undisciplined student will not let the teacher pay attention to the whole group. A characterless woman will ruin husband.
Therefore, one should avoid residing, working, friendship, teaching, marrying or accompanying the individual, who is wicked, vicious, corrupt, vitiated, cunning, villain, depraved, evil minded, torturous, painful, to be safe.
This is one of the reasons which is compelling highly qualified, talented, able bodied youngsters to leave the India and settle else where. Corruption, reservations in jobs and criminalisation of police net work & politics is behind large scale migration abroad.
Its better to live in a state which do not have a wicked, vicious, corrupt, vitiated villain king. One is better of alone in stead of wicked, vicious, corrupt, vitiated, cunning, villain, depraved, evil minded friends. Its good not to have wicked, vicious, corrupt, vitiated, cunning, villain, depraved, evil minded students for the teacher and its preferably good idea to remain a bachelor instead of marrying a wicked, vicious, corrupt, vitiated, cunning, villain, depraved, evil minded woman.
There are the people posted under corrupt officers, who force them to do undesirable things. One should better get himself transferred instead of dancing to the tunes of the corrupt bureaucrats or ministers. One day or the other down fall of the corrupt is imminent, how so ever high-mighty he be, such people.
A cunning-wicked friend will always exploit and harm one. An undisciplined student will not let the teacher pay attention to the whole group. A characterless woman will ruin husband.
Therefore, one should avoid residing, working, friendship, teaching, marrying or accompanying the individual, who is wicked, vicious, corrupt, vitiated, cunning, villain, depraved, evil minded, torturous, painful, to be safe.
This is one of the reasons which is compelling highly qualified, talented, able bodied youngsters to leave the India and settle else where. Corruption, reservations in jobs and criminalisation of police net work & politics is behind large scale migration abroad.
कुराज राज्येन कुत: प्रजा सुखं, कुमित्र मित्रेण कुतो निवृत्ति:।
कुदारदारैश्च कुतो गृहे रति:, कुशिष्य मध्यापयत: कुतो यश:॥
कुराज्य-निकृष्ट राज्य में प्रजा, कुमित्र-नालायक से दोस्ती, निकृष्ट स्त्री के संग-साथ से सुख और निकृष्ट शिष्य को शिक्षा प्रदान करने से गुरु को मान-सम्मान कैसे मिल सकता है?[चाणक्य नीति 6.14] Neither a disorderly country, a wretched friend, a vicious woman nor can a duffer disciple grant happiness-honour to any one.
Public can not live happily in a state governed by wicked, wicked friends can not help in welfare, wicked wife can not add to happiness or sexual pleasure and wicked follower-student will never help the Guru in gaining respect.
All over the world public revolt against the misrule-rising prices, corruption, external aggression-atrocities on the common man. When free and fair elections are held such governments are wiped off. In Indian context it visualises that more than 50% of the politicians are dreaded criminals, corrupt, power hungry, without devotion to the country. They acquire wealth through dubious means and deposit it in tax heavens, abroad.
Pakistan is a country of the wicked people. There is anarchy, corruption, lack of law & order, terrorism training schools and a bankrupt government. Practically is a country of beggars, who do not mind donors-helpers like China and America. Muslim is happy in every country not ruled by Muslims.
One will not be able to find a friend these days. Acquaintance is a different phenomenon.
A wretched woman can not give either physical comfort or to her husband and children, what to talk of family-elders in laws.
It is seen that criminals-wicked become followers of well known-respected politicians, social workers, imminent philosophers-scholars and propagate their own agenda, bringing disrespect, dishonour, slur, bad name to the them.
Next, Shlok (6.15-22) give gist-essence of what one can learn from the animals to become successful person-politician.
Please refer to :: santoshkipathshala.blogspot.com for further elaboration, help, guidance, progress.
Public can not live happily in a state governed by wicked, wicked friends can not help in welfare, wicked wife can not add to happiness or sexual pleasure and wicked follower-student will never help the Guru in gaining respect.
All over the world public revolt against the misrule-rising prices, corruption, external aggression-atrocities on the common man. When free and fair elections are held such governments are wiped off. In Indian context it visualises that more than 50% of the politicians are dreaded criminals, corrupt, power hungry, without devotion to the country. They acquire wealth through dubious means and deposit it in tax heavens, abroad.
Pakistan is a country of the wicked people. There is anarchy, corruption, lack of law & order, terrorism training schools and a bankrupt government. Practically is a country of beggars, who do not mind donors-helpers like China and America. Muslim is happy in every country not ruled by Muslims.
One will not be able to find a friend these days. Acquaintance is a different phenomenon.
A wretched woman can not give either physical comfort or to her husband and children, what to talk of family-elders in laws.
It is seen that criminals-wicked become followers of well known-respected politicians, social workers, imminent philosophers-scholars and propagate their own agenda, bringing disrespect, dishonour, slur, bad name to the them.
Next, Shlok (6.15-22) give gist-essence of what one can learn from the animals to become successful person-politician.
Please refer to :: santoshkipathshala.blogspot.com for further elaboration, help, guidance, progress.
अमित्रं कुरुते मित्रं मित्रं द्वेष्टि हिनस्ति च।
कर्म चारभते दुष्टं तमाहुर्मूढचेतसम्॥
जो व्यक्ति अमित्र अर्थात् मित्र बनने के अयोग्य को मित्र बनाता है और मित्र बनाने योग्य से द्वेष करता है तथा उसका नाश करता है और दुष्ट कर्म करता है, उसे मूर्ख कहते है।[विदुर नीति 89]
One who is friendly with an incompetent person and avoids friendship with an able person, trouble him, envy him, destroy him; is sure to perish. Such a person is called imprudent, idiot.
Initially, honourable Shri Atal Bihari Vajpayee and Modi made efforts for friendship with Pakistan. Modi continued ties with China. He is still friendly with wretched Putin & Russia.
Perhaps this is the need of the hour since America has been interfering with India's internal and international relations since very beginning.
न तन्मित्रं यस्य कोपाद् बिभेति यद् वा मित्रं शड़िकतेनोपचर्यम्।
यस्मिन् मित्रे पितरीवाश्वसीत तद् वै मित्रं सड़्गतानितराणि॥
वह मित्र नहीं है, जिसके कोप से डर लगता हो अथवा जिससे शंकित होकर व्यवहार किया जाता हो। मित्र वही होता है जिसमें पिता के समान विश्वास होता है, अन्य तो संगत इकट्ठे हुए साथी मात्र कहलाते हैं।[विदुर नीति 106]
One is not a friend if his anger fears or his behaviour haunts. The friend can be relied just like father. Anyone else is just a colleague-mate or the person who has gathered for the time being, an acquaintance.
ययोश्चत्तेन वा चित्तं निभृतं निभृतेन वा।
समेति प्रज्ञया तयोर्मैत्री न जीर्यति॥
जिन दो मनुष्यों का चित्त के साथ चित्त, गुप्त रहस्य के साथ गुप्त रहस्य तथा बुद्धि के साथ बुद्धि मिल जाती है, उनकी मित्रता जीर्ण नहीं होती।[विदुर नीति 111]
Those two people whose innerself-psyche is alike, their secrets are common and intelligence is par, their friendship can not become weak.
Duryodhan and Karn became friends due to common enemy-target. Both hated Pandavs. Both were crooked-wicked. Karn, who was well known for his charity, denied water to Abhimanyu in the battle field, when he was breathing his last.
विद्या मित्रं प्रवासेषु भार्या मित्रं गॄहेषु च।
व्याधितस्यौषधं मित्रं धर्मो मित्रं मॄतस्य च॥
घर से दूर निवास-प्रवास में विद्या, घर में पत्नी, रोग में औषधि और मृतक का मित्र धर्म होता है।[सुभाषितानि]
Education, learning, training, skill, qualification is a friend abroad-away from home, wife is a friend at home, drug-medicine is a friend in illness and Dharm (righteousness, virtuousness, piousity, honesty, morals) is the friend after death.
आतुरे व्यसने प्राप्ते दुर्भिक्षे शत्रु संकटे।
राजद्वारे श्मशाने च यस्तिष्ठति स बान्धव:॥
सच्चा मित्र वही है जो परिस्थितियों में मद्दद करे, (1). आवश्यकता पड़ने पर, (2). किसी दुर्घटना होने पर, (3). जब अकाल पड़ा हो, (4). जब युद्ध चल रहा हो, (5). जब राजा के दरबार में (न्यायालय) जाना पड़े और जब श्मशान घाट जाना पड़े।[चाणक्य नीति 1.12]One is a true friend if he stands by one in case of (1). Need (emergency, urgency), (2). Accident, (3). Famine (Calamities), (4). War, (5). representation in court and (6). Crematorium i.e., some one dies.
One can identify relatives, friends, attendants-dependants, at a time-occasion when he suffers from incurable disease, consumes narcotics-alcohol, joins bad company, suffers from scarcity of eatables-food, under goes the impact of drought (famine, bad season i.e., weather, flood, natural calamities), attack by the enemy, state-government imposes some case over him or when he carries-takes the mortal remains-dead body of his near and dear to the cremation ground.
Its said that one must join at a time of need (sorrow, pain, grief, difficulty, trouble) even if he fails to be present in a function (celebration, auspicious occasion, social gathering, rituals, customs, festivities). Even the worst possible-dreaded enemy attends the funeral procession.
One can identify relatives, friends, attendants-dependants, at a time-occasion when he suffers from incurable disease, consumes narcotics-alcohol, joins bad company, suffers from scarcity of eatables-food, under goes the impact of drought (famine, bad season i.e., weather, flood, natural calamities), attack by the enemy, state-government imposes some case over him or when he carries-takes the mortal remains-dead body of his near and dear to the cremation ground.
Its said that one must join at a time of need (sorrow, pain, grief, difficulty, trouble) even if he fails to be present in a function (celebration, auspicious occasion, social gathering, rituals, customs, festivities). Even the worst possible-dreaded enemy attends the funeral procession.
जाड्यं धियो हरति सिंचति वाचि सत्यं, मानोन्नतिं दिशति पापमपाकरोति। चेतः प्रसादयति दिक्षु तनोति कीर्तिं,सत्संगतिः कथय किं न करोति पुंसाम्॥
अच्छे मित्रों का साथ बुद्धि की जड़ता को हर लेता है, वाणी में सत्य का संचार करता है, मान और उन्नति को बढ़ाता है और पाप से मुक्त करता है। चित्त को प्रसन्न करता है और मनुष्य की कीर्ति को सभी दिशाओं में फैलाता है। सत्संगतिः मनुष्य का कुछ भी भला नहीं करती।
Friendship with good (pious, virtuous, righteous) people awakes the intelligence, generated truthfulness in the speech, boosts glory and removes sins. Innerself is filled with happiness & vigour. Name & fame spreads all around.
विद्या मित्रं प्रवासेषु,भार्या मित्रं गृहेषु च।
व्याधितस्यौषधं मित्रं, धर्मो मित्रं मृतस्य च॥
ज्ञान यात्रा में, पत्नी घर में, औषध रोगी का तथा धर्म मृतक का सबसे बड़ा मित्र होता है।
Knowledge during travel, wife at home, medicine for the patient and Dharm for the dying are the best friends of a person.
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